Recently, one of my students said,
“I wish I could have known you from before.”
I was puzzled and asked, “Before? Before what?’”
“Before you were living your Life Purpose so
fully,” he replied. “I don’t know
if you’d believe it even if you could see it,”
I said, shaking my head. “Well, somehow I think
it would be very interesting,” he said sheepishly,
his eyes twinkling and his lips grinning wryly under
his handlebar mustache.
I moved state-to-state recently and
my passport disappeared into the chaos (along with
my car stereo faceplate, my partner’s flight
log book, and his favorite fishing reel). I keep randomly
taking five minutes to search anywhere I can just
in case it chooses to reveal itself. So much of my
stuff is still jumbled up in boxes and while riffling
through one of them I came across some stray photos
that must have been in a bottom drawer somewhere.
And there it was, the picture of how I was before
I began living the life purpose I know is mine because
it is mapped out in my fingerprints. I picked her
up and took a good look. There she is, in a puff shouldered
pink sweater with a pattern of darker bows across
the chest, slumped so far down in a chair that her
hands and elbows are supporting her by leaning on
her lap. Knees together, head tilted down with eyes
gazing sideways at something to the left of the camera.
A wallflower succeeding at invisibility who doesn’t
feel at all comfortable or confident. She looks wilted,
frightened, unsure, depressed, and flat-out miserable.
I can tell the picture was taken during one of my
college holidays, at my grandparent’s house,
when they were still alive. The table is laid out
in the background and an antique lamp I now have in
my office is also in the background. There is no one
else in the picture. Despite the family holiday setting,
the young woman looks desperately alone.
What a difference getting on purpose
makes!
Twenty years later I am a Successful
Business Artist with my own business, trainings, public
speaking, private clients, and lots of travel. I get
to meet thousands of people each year, and work with
somewhere between five hundred and a thousand (depending on the year) as private consultation
clients and students. I am confident about myself
and make my living from my own creative self-expression
and love getting up every morning to get the honor
of stepping into other’s lives with them and
help them see their own highest potential by decoding
their destiny—their Life Purpose—for them
from their fingerprints. I get updates from clients
about what they’re up to and how helpful their
sessions were for them and love fostering my students
along and getting the absolute privilege of seeing
them take on their challenges, step into their own
purposes over time, and simply blossom. And now, I’m
the author of my first book, Destiny at Your
Fingertips, which I wrote for those who are tired
of wondering what their purpose is and are ready to
find it out in order to live it. It’s been many
years since I was depressed as the main feature of
every moment of every day of my life.
The road to inhabiting my life purpose
was not an easy one. It takes effort to step into
your Life Purpose and embody it over time, evolve
into it. People are often surprised when they learn
what I went through because I was completely clueless
about my purpose and resisted it tooth and nail until
my life just stopped working entirely, especially
my career and my health, and I had to change…or
either be physically ill the rest of my life, unable
to work, and spend my life wanting to die. This is
not an exaggeration. I spent the first thirty years
of my life with a critical voice inside my head telling
me I did not deserve to be here and want or need anything
and that I should just get it over with. I even had
a name for this habit of thinking—the “suicide
tapes.” I went through a huge career crisis
and a financial crisis and finally found my purpose
the hard way, the way most of us do, and once I started
down this path I took a deep breath and haven’t
looked back and my life has just gotten better and
better. Now I can’t imagine living any other
life than the one I’ve got. I know where I belong
in the world and how to use my talents to make a contribution
only I can make.
What would it mean to you to be able
to know who you are, what direction your life wants
to take, and what you need to do about it to get there?
Can you imagine what it would be like to have an Instruction
Manual for your Life, available at all times, that
you could consult at any time when making a decision
or taking an action? How much would it be worth to
you to know how to use your will power to begin taking
conscious steps to make your Life Purpose happen?
So many people are seeking the purpose of their life
these days…probably in higher numbers than ever
before. Humans have been asking, “Who am I?
Why am I here? What is my life about?” for as
long as we can all remember. But there has been no
clear and definitive answer to these questions…until
now.
Your fingerprints are formed five
months before you are born and do not change. They
go far beyond identifying you physically to telling
you who you are, what your enduring unchangeable transpersonal
psychology is. We call this your Soul Psychology.
It’s the state of conscious awareness you want
to live in where life feels best to you. It’s
your Zone of Fulfillment, your direct “aha!”
spot. There are many misperceptions running around
about what life purpose is—most of which are
really about your changeable values, principles, beliefs,
and goals. Wanting to buy a house or lose weight or
find your life partner are all important goals, but
any one of these is not your life purpose. Promoting
peace, loving everyone, serving the world, and your
personal spiritual belief system are essential to
your well-being, but given that you can change what
you believe, and hold values that are not your own
and change them, indicates that these things are not
your individual purpose either. What you’re
good at, your aptitudes and skills, are often mistaken
for your purpose, but just because you’re good
at cleaning toilets doesn’t mean doing this
all day gives you a deep sense of fulfillment. Your
destiny is more specific than any of these things
and often isn’t anything you even start off
thinking you’re good at or interested in.
One of my clients is a life coach
with a specialty in attention deficit disorder. She
wanted to make a training video and travel around
the country to interview a bunch of authorities on
the topic, but couldn’t figure-out how to raise
the high quantities of money it would take to do this.
When we had our session together we found that her
fingerprints denoted that she is supposed to be doing
her own creative self-expression in the spotlight
as an authority. After our session she had a “eureka!”
moment when she realized she’s supposed to be
the star of her training DVD. She then produced it
in on a shoestring, in one day, and within a year
was working on two more and spreading the word about
her work, helping more people with ADD understand
themselves and their special talents, and being called
up and consulted as the expert she truly is. One year
after our appointment she stopped to see me at the
conference where we’d met the year before to
show me what she’d done. It was a wonderful
moment for both of us and it was remarkable to me
how different she looked and how bright and energetic
her energy was compared to the year before. She was
the star she was born to be and owning it was helping
her to help more people, more easily than she’d
originally imagined for herself. Finding out this
aspect of her purpose helped her become aware of her
potential and to step into it with conscious awareness
more quickly than she might have otherwise. Wow.
In my work with people this type
of extraordinary thing happens all the time. Learning
your life purpose sheds light on your life, it gives
you a larger and more compassionate viewpoint for
own life and those of others. You appreciate what
you’re yearning to step up to and can better
stop and acknowledge yourself as you choose to shape
your life, rather than be driven by it. It gives you
the encouragement, empowerment, and direction you
need to determine your own life and face your challenges,
rather than drifting along and taking the path of
least resistance.
If you’re ready to know your
own personal destiny, your own Life Purpose, the life
you ultimately would love to wake up and live, it’s
just waiting for you. All you have to do is translate
it and discovering it from your fingerprints isn’t
hard to do. What are you waiting for? Every minute
of your finite life is precious. Why not find out
how to wring every ounce of meaning out of it you
can?
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