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In your book, Destiny at Your Fingertips, you
discuss the concept of a “Life Purpose.”
How exactly would you define Life Purpose?
Your destiny—or Life Purpose—is the
state of consciousness you want to live in where
life tastes absolutely delicious to you. It’s
your personal direct point of meaning, your Zone
of Fulfillment. When you inhabit your Life Purpose
you know who you are and what you need to do to
feed your deep sense of being your true self.
It isn’t any specific action you perform
or a goal to achieve. It isn’t your values
or your principles or your morals. It isn’t
even necessarily what you’re “good”
at and it isn’t your skills, your aptitudes,
or your career. Your destiny is your core unchanging
sense of who you are that wants to be expressed
through every decision you make and action you
take. It’s your transpersonal or core or
soul psychology, the part of you that goes beyond
your unique bundle of personality characteristics.
It’s the continual process of your awareness
unfolding over time. It’s your sense of
“I am X and I know what I want and need
to do about it.” I often find myself saying
that it’s like the big shoes you were born
to wear, that you are continuously growing into
and figuring out how to walk around in. And for
most of us, those shoes are often bigger than
we imagine for ourselves. We start off feeling
like they’re too big, like those gigantic
shiny red shoes clowns wear. And we stumble around
learning how to walk in them until we get comfortable
with who we are, that these are our shoes whether
we think we like them or not. And that it’s
okay, actually necessary, to stumble on the way
to walking, then striding, then dancing with grace
and acceptance and sheer joy in them. When you
are on-purpose you wake up in the morning itching
to get up, get going, and live your life. You
feel like every day is exceedingly precious and
exciting with challenges and you just can’t
wait to get up and live it, just really eat it
up.
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How is
fingerprint analysis different from traditional
predictive palmistry?
Fingerprint analysis is extremely different from
predictive palmistry. First off, traditional palmistry
doesn’t take the fingerprints, as an integrated
system, into account. Second, you’ve got fingerprints,
and the destiny they denote, but that doesn’t
mean you’re automatically going to live out
that purpose in the sense that you are fated to
do so. Traditional palmistry focuses on making predictions,
which is very disempowering when you stop and think
about it, because it implies that you can’t
change anything for yourself, that you don’t
have free will, and you are completely powerless
over the course your life takes. I have had people
call me up and tell me that they were terrified
for many years because someone made some prediction
(that never came to pass) from their hands. Anyone
who really studies hands and does research on the
accuracy of predictions made from the hands, rapidly
finds out that the popular perception of palmistry
as any kind of reliable predictive tool is a myth.
If someone makes an accurate prediction about a
future event while looking at your hands it’s
just that they have an excellent intuition that
really doesn’t have much to do with your actual
hands.
So, if your hands and fingerprints
don’t predict anything, what do they
tell you? What your fingerprints say about
you is far more important than any fatalistic
prediction could ever be, even if they could
be made, because they tell you who you
are and who you long to be, they give
you a clear and direct picture of your highest
actualized self, of your most meaningful life,
and they help you understand what you need
to do to move towards it. They are like your
specific Instruction Manual for Life and knowing
what it says can empower you to take the reins
of your own life by helping you see what direction
you want to go in. We each have a destiny,
a purpose, but it is up to each of us to get
out and use our free will and self-determination
to live it. No one is going to hand your best
life to you on a platter, you have to take
many repeated actions over time to evolve
yourself, your environment, and your very
life into the life you most desire to live
and were born to live. In my book, Destiny
at Your Fingertips, I talk about the
power you have to choose or refuse
your Life Purpose, and the consequences of
doing each, as well as help you decode your
purpose from your own fingerprints so you
can learn what your purpose is about and start
working consciously with it right NOW so you
can move deeply into your best life.
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How are you able to
determine a person’s Life Purpose by simply
looking at their fingertips?
Your fingertips hold your fingerprints, which
are the map of your soul psychology or
life purpose psychology. And translating
the fingerprints, with this system of fingerprint
interpretation developed by Richard Unger, founder
of the International Institute of Hand Analysis,
is surprisingly easy. It’s something that
anyone with the interest and inclination can learn
to do…just like learning a foreign language.
Happily the language of your soul has just four
basic “verbs.” There are four basic
fingerprint types called whorls, loops, tented
arches, and arches. Beyond this, subtypes, or
combinations of the basic types are possible.
Then you have ten fingers. Four basic fingerprints
plus ten fingers/fingerprints. You can have any
combination of prints over your ten fingers.
You can have two tented arches and eight loops.
You can have ten whorls. You can have five arches,
three whorls, and two tented arches. Any combination.
Because of this we have to look at all ten
fingerprints in context with one another
to determine which ones “rise to the top.”
Each fingerprint type is associated with a certain
number of points. They are ranked. Out of your
ten fingerprints we look for the ones worth the
most points out of all the fingerprints you have.
The fingers with the high-ranking prints are your
life purpose fingers. Each finger has a meaning
so there are ten basic life purposes. You can
have one finger as a life purpose or two or three
or four and so on. It all depends on what fingerprints
you have. Destiny at Your Fingertips
guides you through the five easy steps of identifying
and translating your life purpose from your fingerprints
so finding out your life purpose is now a snap.
The answer to the biggest mystery of your life,
“Who am I?” and “Why am I here?”
has been with you from five months prior to your
own birth, written right on your own body in the
form of your fingerprints. Next you have to choose
to do something about it so you can live it.
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Do you look at the
rest of the hands as well? Do the rest of my hands
have anything to say about me?
Absolutely. We (graduates of the International
Institute of Hand Analysis) do look at the rest
of the hands for what they have to tell you, which
is a ton, but not about predictions, except perhaps
in the sense that the way you do things repeatedly—the
patterns of your personality—is in your
hands and that is highly predictive of what you
will tend to keep doing. But this is quite different
than what most people think of when they think
about the prediction of events. The shapes and
lines of your hands tell you all about your personality
psychology. These aspects of your hands are
a changeable dynamic system which reflects
the sum total of your brain’s processing
over time. At a glance, your hands tell you all
the things personality inventories and aptitudes
assessment tests (like the Myers-Briggs, the Enneagram,
the MMPI) can tell you, with no possibility of
“cheating” the test or subverting
it due to not knowing yourself well or trying
to be someone you really aren’t (i.e. who
you think your mother or peers or society wants
you to be). Your hands also go further by telling
you about your very special areas of giftedness
and how they want to be used and expressed in
your life, as well as the consequences of ignoring
or resisting your gifts. Remember, because the
way you think about things and feel about things
can change over time, your hand shape and
lines make changes that reflect this. And,
yes, both hands can change, which debunks
traditional palmistry’s idea that the left
hand is what you’re born with and the right
hand is what you’re doing with it. If this
was true your left hand would not change and it
does. Your left hand is your “personal”
or inner circle hand, and your right hand is your
“public” or out-in-the-world hand.
So, your fingerprints denote your soul psychology
and your hand’s shape and lines denote your
personality psychology. These two systems interact
and often want different things, a conundrum we
call the Delicious Dilemmas. It is at
these clashing sparking intersections where the
meat of life is lived, for better and worse, and
it is up to you, with your free will, to become
aware of all these aspects of self, so you can
take care of them and harmonize them, and move
consistently in the direction of your most fulfilling
life.
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Is it important to
know my Life Purpose? How can knowing my Life
Purpose help me?
Knowing your life purpose is the most important
thing you can possess. There is nothing in
the world more important than knowing and taking
on your destiny. Every single aspect of your life—from
your career to your relationships to your health
to being truly successful—operates according
to whether you are stepping into your purpose
or being driven by its inverse. Lately, I’ve
been contemplating the difference between destiny
and fate and have come to the conclusion that
when you live your destiny you are choosing to
inhabit your life purpose with a cultivated consciousness
that allows you to get in integrity with yourself.
If you ignore or deny your life purpose you end
up being driven by the consequences of not being
your true self, which can be pretty devastating.
If you have a Leadership life purpose and resist
it you find yourself in power struggles everywhere
in your life—at the worst you get and accept
dictating bosses and disrespectful/abusive romantic
partners and don’t understand why you can’t
seem to get a good job or relationship. At the
best you end up constantly subverting your desires
to help others achieve their goals (the “Power
Behind the Throne” syndrome) and once that
person’s goals are fulfilled you get “kicked
out” in some way...fired or harassed out
of your job or “divorced.” This is
what “fate” is. It’s what happens
when you sit in the backseat of the car of your
life and let yourself be driven. And let me tell
you, whoever is in the driver’s seat isn’t
going to take you where you want to go. In fact,
the places you end up are so completely not what
you want, that hopefully, someday you will wake
up and decide to take on the responsibility of
driving the car of your life for yourself. Hopefully,
you’ll make a decision to switch from sleepwalking
through life—being driven along and bewildered
about why your life sucks and you feel lost all
the time and nothing comes along to fix it for
you—to taking charge of figuring out who
you really are and what you need to do about it.
It is incredible when you realize you have a purpose
and you can choose to take it on and fulfill your
destiny. You don’t have to wait around on
anyone or anything else. In effect, you realize
it’s your job to save yourself and claim
your real life.
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What if I don’t
like the Life Purpose spelled out in my fingerprints?
It seems unfortunate, but this happens quite often.
In fact, I was absolutely pissed off at one of
my life purposes when I found out what was in
my fingerprints. Incensed. I wanted to say that
it was completely wrong. But even in that moment
I knew it was my own misconceptions about what
the word describing my purpose meant that was
the problem. The underlying issue was that I didn’t
want to take the kind of responsibility necessary
to own this piece of my purpose. For various reasons
I thought I was supposed to be someone different.
Someone more in-line with what my family would
approve of me being that actually was a version
of playing very small so as not to make any of
them look bad for not stepping up to their own
potential and dreams for their lives. One of my
favorite bumper stickers says, “Those who
defer their dreams discourage yours.” The
fact that I was so adamant in my dislike of my
purpose told me right away that I needed to stop
and confront some things in myself, that I was
trying to be someone I wasn’t and avoiding
who I really was and that this avoidance was making
my life miserable and hiding my truly exciting
delicious life from me. My experience with working
with thousands of people over the last ten years
has taught me that we all have resistance to our
life purposes. Our first resistance has to do
with our life lesson, but beyond that we are afraid
to take responsibility for our lives and incredibly
afraid to risk failure. I can hear you asking,
“Ronelle, are you saying that I can step
into living my life purpose and in some way fail
at it?” And my answer to you is yes. There
are no guarantees in life. You can fail in the
sense that you don’t get recognition for
it or you have trouble figuring out how to make
a living at it, etc. There are no guarantees in
life. There is no magical silver bullet that can
make your life “happily ever after.”
Most people would rather spend their lives doing
something they don’t care about, bored out
of their minds or worse, because if you fail at
something you don’t care about it doesn’t
matter. It just doesn’t matter…which
implies that you’re treating your life as
if it doesn’t matter. But your life purpose
matters to you. There are real stakes involved.
Real risk and the possibility of real return.
At the end of the day you’re either taking
on your destiny and the challenges associated
with it and reaping the deep sense of fulfillment
that comes from being yourself (a real reward
in its own right) or you’re living out the
much nastier consequences of avoiding yourself
and your true life.
The other huge reason people don’t like
their life purpose is because they know that their
lives will have to change to step into it and
humans are fundamentally resistant to change or
anything that seems to threaten their security—even
if they are paying a very high price, the price
of their very souls—for that security. It’s
natural that we all resist change, yet things
change constantly, whether we want them to or
not. Again, it’s so much better to take
on change in your life than be driven by it. Our
true selves and the Universe constantly seem to
collude to push and shove us along until our life
situations—our inner world or our outer
world or both—become intolerable. Do you
want to harden against this and shut down further
and further until you’re one of the living
dead? Or do you want to take it on and get the
right kind of changes going in your life, the
changes that are often painful, but liberate you
to live the precious life you are here to live?
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What if
I think I already know my Life Purpose?
When my business partner and I are at conferences,
we get quite a few people who say, “Oh, I
already know my life purpose.” And some very
few of them are right on-purpose. But if I’m
very blunt, at the risk of offending some people,
when we ask most of them what their purpose is their
answer is something so vague that it clearly isn’t
their life purpose, but is one of what we call the
“life purpose imposters.” A statement
of values or goals or morals or principles. “Promoting
peace in the world.” “Shining my light
everywhere I go.” “Helping everyone
I meet.” Loving God or planet Earth or being
a good person. These are all wonderful important
things, but they aren’t a specific destiny
or life purpose. If loving God is everyone’s
purpose then everyone who subscribes to a particular
religion with this belief has the exact same purpose
and this doesn’t make any sense. Don’t
get me wrong here—your beliefs and principles
and values are all extremely important. It’s
just that, because you can change these things,
they aren’t your enduring core purpose. Your
beliefs can change and you can hold values that
turn out not to be your own. When what you think
is your purpose is something it seems would be a
good idea for everyone in the world to take on,
then you can bet that it isn’t your specific
destiny.
For those who do actually
know their purpose due to all the self-awareness
work and external work they’ve done to
be living it, there’s always taking it
to the next level. It has surprised me to find
that those who are already solidly on purpose,
and know the most about themselves, are the
ones who get the very most out of a consultation.
They are acutely aware that you can never know
enough about your purpose, can never hear about
it enough or too many times, because it is a
dynamic work in progress with a lot of arms
and legs to coordinate and a series of ongoing
challenges to be met. Because life purpose is
a process of the evolvement of your consciousness
it’s like getting yourself onto your own
personal cosmic staircase and stepping up the
stairs (in those big clown shoes) in every area
of your life for your entire life. I so thoroughly
enjoy helping those who are on-purpose take
a look at how to take themselves up another
step. Sometimes a client is doing a part of
their purpose, but missing out on another component
of it and we can identify what’s missing
so they can get the drag factor out of their
life and the satisfaction of running more smoothly
on all four wheels, rather than trying to operate
with a flat tire. Other times the session is
about sheer expansion. I had a client whose
hands looked great and on-purpose, and she was.
Her purpose was Inspirational Communications
and she is a public speaker with an average
audience size of 3,000 people! And yet, her
hands were asking, “How are we gonna make
it bigger, Mom?” I posed this question
at the opening of the session, when I had no
idea what she’s up to, and she laughed
with delighted recognition. I then went on to
talk about expansion of the audience for her
message. How was she going to go about reaching
more people? At this point she told me about
her work and I asked if she’s doing anything
to reach the people who don’t end-up in
the room with her, what about the rest of us?
How about a book maybe? Turns out she already
sells recordings of her lectures and knew that
she needed to write a book, but had some fears
that had to do with not being able to control
what people might think about her if they aren’t
in the room with her personally. This is a concern
about being rejected that we call “Tomato
Fear” (in the old days if you did your
thing on-stage and the audience didn’t
like you they threw rotten tomatoes at you).
She loved getting confirmation of her suspected
next steps of growth and deeply appreciated
the acknowledgement that her fears of rejection
were natural, were just trying to protect her,
were actually telling her that she was pointed
in the right direction, and just needed to be
taken on and worked with nonetheless. She loved
the permission she got to be herself and accept
herself as-is so she can work with herself with
compassion and kindness and some real tough
love.
- Do I have to do anything
about my Life Purpose? What happens if I don’t
do anything about it?
Absolutely not. You don’t have to do a thing
about your life purpose. There is no one holding a
gun to your head, no one who can make you do your
purpose, no one who will judge you for it, or make
you account for it and your life will go on. You are
as free as a bird to squander your gifts, and to live
an empty life—whether you’re distracted
or depressed or just “going with the flow.”
Yet I would pose
a question to you: if living your life purpose is
what makes your life rich and exciting and meaningful
and satisfying and full, why wouldn’t you
do it? Our lives are short and for some of us much
shorter than expected. Why would you choose to sleepwalk
through your life with all the consequences of this?
Why would you really choose to sell out to security
instead of living from the true security of being
who you are and doing your best to create a materially
secure life in conjunction with being who you are?
Why not entertain the possibility of marrying meaning
and money together in whatever form is spelled out
by your fingerprints? If you had the car of your
dreams parked in your driveway but didn’t
want to make the effort to learn how to drive it,
this is very sad indeed. How devastating is it to
be an Artist who never paints? A Master of Love
who lives alone? A frustrated Healer giving unsolicited
unwanted advice to everyone you know? A Master of
Results who is completely dependent on what others
dole out or not? An Innovator who bends themselves
out of shape to please others? Why would you want
to live with the consequences of not living your
purpose instead of swimming in the deep meaning
of shaping your own life and knowing your unique
place in the world and what you have to offer in
your time here on planet earth? If you’re
ready to know your destiny, it’s just waiting
for you. It’s always knocking on your door
with every decision you’re presented with
and every action you take. Why not start by finding
out what it is, then working in your daily life
with it and seeing where it takes you? Your life
may just turn out to be the one you’ve always
wanted to live.
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